SPOTLIGHT Debbie’s Discernments By Debbie Powers 


Dear Family and Friends, As I sat contemplating on what to write


that you all know where my head is, you can only assume 


a complicated mix of annoyance, anger and disappointment. 


Unfortunately, we often cannot control that feeling but what  possibilities that can trigger frustration. It is also a very personal emotion that affects every individual differently bombarding us in many various avenues. As a business owner, the source of frustration can start with all the bureaucrats that control inspections, delays in opening, shut downs (like Covid) and on and on. We can all admit that many of the rules, laws, ideals that have been in place since Methuselah do not apply in today’s world, but they  Another source of aggravation can be your employees.


You tell them how to do something but they have a better idea 


  anticipate someone or something happ a certain way and it does not come to pass. Oh no, here comes the angry but The all-time biggest source of frustrati within ourselves. We set goals for ours  expectancy initiatives in our own min


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picture. In their mind they were attempting to educate you to a more productive way of doing it, not realizing you have tried that way many times to no avail. Now the struggle is even harder because they were trying to please you but in fact the opposite prevailed. We all need our valued employees, so you handle it gently and walk away aggravated. My mind had a much more explicit word but…Of course, the opposite hap- pens frequently as well, where you can agitate your employee creating much angst in them mindfully or unmindfully. Our industry is extremely family oriented, which can be a blessing and a curse if you allow it to be. We all love our spouses, children, grandchildren, siblings, etc., intensely but we are all human beings with varying ideas and that may arise in business and life in g great intent we need to practice the ar frustration to keep the family unit wh putting on our listening ears to hear e every person’s opinion. One of the greatest and most basic


and then want to beat ourselves up fo 


being can carry out to others which innocent bystander. Deep down we 


 Enough of why we suffer with this dilemma, let’s talk about 


frustration is a temporary emotion. Knowing that this feeling is short lived, push its existence out of the way; in other words, get over it as soon as possible. It is a wasted emotion that can be better spent elsewhere. There are a variety of ways the mental health community has suggested to calm your agitated mind. They suggest breathing exercises, where you slowly breathe in and out. Another option is progressive muscle relaxation. After reading a little about that, I have decided   out your brain of the unwanted emotional toxins. Still others try meditation, yoga, walking outside to get some fresh air, imagining a relaxing scene that brought you a calming experience. The most popular version is speaking (venting) to a trusted close friend that is a good listener and can give you unbiased advice. My personal favorite is prayer – taking  actually take the time to think things through to the other side, hopefully reason will take over leaving emotion behind.  We can never completely avoid frustration entirely, but we


 our feelings and address our trigger points when at all possible. A long time ago I was given some great advice by a faithful friend, “You cannot change anyone else, but you can


  Inward frustration can be very detrimental to your health, orse than outward frustration from dpoint. So besides changing your


nt and having better communication s, throw a little humor into a bad  


e song goes, CAN MAKE IT IF WE TRY”


Always, bie


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